Stories that inspire courage
Women who have been through something similar want to share their experience with you. It may help you to find the right path.
I didn't want my parents to be disappointed in me.
I am a student and I have a good, harmonious relationship with my parents. When I noticed that I was pregnant, I was surprised and I felt embarrassed, especially when it came to my parents, who were always very protective with me. They never had to worry about me – and now I was pregnant at such a young age, and without a partner.
I was in denial about the pregnancy at first
because I was afraid of being alone with two children, without parents, a husband or support. I already had one child and my husband didn't want a second. I panicked.
When I was very young, I started asking myself why I look different, since I do not have the same skin colour as my parents or siblings.
My parents never kept it a secret from me. From day one, they spoke to me honestly and in detail and told me that I was adopted.
During the separation phase I met another man – I then got pregnant by him.
I am a 24-year-old student. When I accidentally became pregnant I was in the process of separating from a long-term partner. During the separation phase I met another man – I then got pregnant by him. I didn’t want anyone to know; I only confided in my best friend.
When I first found out that I was pregnant, I was already seven months gone
Pregnant at 21 – a shock. I was desperate and didn't have the courage to tell anybody. Children were out of the question as far as my boyfriend was concerned. The same was true for my parents – a child out of wedlock, and with a Christian on top of it all... And I couldn’t imagine using the anonymous 'baby drop' or adoption, either.
The father of my child had threatened me with violence if I got pregnant.
That is why I managed to forget about the pregnancy until the sixth month. I withdrew from my friends two months before the birth. It could not be overlooked any longer. Luckily it was winter and I could wear a jumper.
Pregnant again! I was a 30-year-old single mother with two daughters.
I could not expect the father of the child to raise a baby in his situation. He was unemployed and receiving benefits. Our relationship was constantly off and on.