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Women who have been through something similar want to share their experience with you. It may help you to find the right path.


When I first found out that I was pregnant, I was already seven months gone

Pregnant at 21 – a shock. I was desperate and didn't have the courage to tell anybody. Children were out of the question as far as my boyfriend was concerned. The same was true for my parents – a child out of wedlock, and with a Christian on top of it all... And I couldn’t imagine using the anonymous 'baby drop' or adoption, either. 



I was in denial about the pregnancy at first

because I was afraid of being alone with two children, without parents, a husband or support. I already had one child and my husband didn't want a second. I panicked.



The father of my child had threatened me with violence if I got pregnant.

That is why I managed to forget about the pregnancy until the sixth month. I withdrew from my friends two months before the birth. It could not be overlooked any longer. Luckily it was winter and I could wear a jumper.



When I was very young, I started asking myself why I look different, since I do not have the same skin colour as my parents or siblings.

My parents never kept it a secret from me. From day one, they spoke to me honestly and in detail and told me that I was adopted.



Pregnant again! I was a 30-year-old single mother with two daughters.

I could not expect the father of the child to raise a baby in his situation. He was unemployed and receiving benefits. Our relationship was constantly off and on.



I couldn't see any way out other than giving my child up for adoption.

I was in a bad mental state. I did not know who the father was. I was already a single mother with a two-year-old child. Alone at 27, I would not have been able to look after two children.